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Don’t say I don’t like you. Here is what I found whilst surfing the net and I thought of you! yes you.


Cut out and prioritize

There are lots of reasons why you might be having a bad day, but a big aspect of the majority of terrible days is that you do not have enough time. Yet rather than panicking and dashing through your to-do list, it’s time to prioritize and cut out any unnecessary tasks. Ask yourself if every task is absolutely essential and then number the tasks in order of priority and tackle them in this order.

Don’t take it out on other people

It can be really tempting to be mean to other people when you’re in a bad mood. You might cut someone up when driving or snap at your boyfriend or girlfriend when they ask you a question. However, if you want to overcome this bad day you should bite your tongue and behave. Being mean will not relieve you of your bad mood and it will just end up making you feel worse. Instead, do the opposite and do something kind. It can be something as simple as holding the door open for someone.

Accept it

Some days are just terrible. If you admit this and try to accept that everything you will attempt today won’t work and that your mood will stay bleak until you wake up tomorrow morning then you’ll find it oddly liberating; we promise. Also once you accept the fact that this day is a write off chances are things will start improving.


Although it is often the last thing you want to do, exercise is a great way to get you out of a bad mood. Exercise releases endorphins, which are chemicals in your brain that make you feel good, so by doing some exercise you will automatically make yourself feel better. A game of squash could be a good option, as you’ll be able to take your bad mood out on the ball.

Favourite song

Music has lots of positive effects on us and if you want to overcome a bad day then you should pop on your favourite, upbeat song. Sometimes it can be tempting to listen to songs that match your mood, but trust us listening to Radiohead or R.E.M will only you bring you down more.


Studies have found that pets can actually help us feel better. If you don’t have any pets call up a friend who has a dog or another fun animal (a fish doesn’t count) who you can take out or play with. An animal that you can exercise with, like a dog or a horse, is probably the best option as you’ll get the benefit of all of those endorphins.

Don’t think of those who are less fortunate

Why do people suggest thinking of those less fortunate than yourself when you’re having a bad day? It doesn’t help. It only makes you feel selfish because compared to a lot of other people your problems aren’t actually that bad. Yet realizing this fact does not make your problems seem less important to you. It also makes you feel lower because it shows that the world can be a pretty rough and ugly place. We suggest you try to not to focus on those who are less fortunate than yourself for today.

Don’t overspend

When you’re having a bad day a lot of people turn to a little retail therapy to help ease their bad mood. Yet overspending and going beyond your budget may seem like a good idea, but four hours later when you’re guiltily staring at the mountain of shopping bags on your kitchen table you’ll be feeling anything but better. It’s true that treating ourselves can help make us feel better, but buy something small like a lipstick or a new piece of sports kit.

Put the kettle on

The researchers from Yale University questioned 51 students about their everyday routines and their emotions, which revealed that those who regularly soaked in a warm bath and had hot drinks felt happier than those who had quick showers and very few hot drinks. If you need a quick pick-me-up, have a soak in the bath. If you need an even quicker pick-me-up, simply make yourself a warm drink for an instantly better mood.

Think of a good memory

This bad day won’t last forever, yet when in you’re in the midst of it the day can certainly feel like it is never-ending. To break that feeling, think of a really good memory; a time when you were truly happy. Thinking about this good time or moment in your life will remind you that this day will be over and more happy times are ahead.




Where did you get those big eyes?

My mother.

And where did you get those lips?

My mother.

And the loneliness?

My mother.

And that broken heart?

My mother.

And the absence, where did you get that?

My father.

“Merely by describing yourself as black you have started on a road towards emancipation, you have committed yourself to fight against all forces that seek to use your blackness as a stamp that marks you out as a subservient being.” “Apartheid—both petty and grand—is obviously evil. Nothing can justify the arrogant assumption that a clique of foreigners has the right to decide on the lives of a majority”   “Black Consciousness is an attitude of the mind and a way of life, the most positive call to emanate from the black world for a long time. Its essence is the realisation by the black man of the need to rally together with his brothers around the cause of their oppression – the blackness of their skin – and to operate as a group to rid themselves of the shackles that bind them to perpetual servitude.”  “Even today, we are still accused of racism. This is a mistake. We know that all interracial groups in South Africa are relationships in which whites are superior, blacks inferior. So as a prelude whites must be made to realize that they are only human, not superior. Same with blacks. They must be made to realize that they are also human, not inferior.” quoted in the Boston Globe“The basic tenet of black consciousness is that the black man must reject all value systems that seek to make him a foreigner in the country of his birth and reduce his basic human dignity.”

“In time, we shall be in a position to bestow on South Africa the greatest possible gift—a more human face.”

I am a woman


As a woman I carry a child for nine months, but I am  never treated as an equal or better than that child because he is a boy. how do I produce a male but be seen as less of  person than that man.

As a woman I am given a much bigger responsibility but my efforts are never valued. succeeding as a mother, a single parent, a teacher, a comforter, a counsellor, an academic and a  person who holds the family together, my strengths go far beyond what I am credited for.

In the corporate world I am still good enough to be a cleaner or a clerk because I am assumed to be “weak and fragile” to lead the company to greater heights.

As a woman perception has led everyone to believe that women are inferior and men are superior.

As a woman I demand my place, I refuse to be subjected and I refuse to let perception define me.  As a woman I am superior and never will be inferior.


I am a woman

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Maya Angelou

Iyanla Vanzant

Photo: © George Burns/Harpo Inc.

“You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.”                                                                                                                                                                       —Iyanla Vanzant

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